Today...
Well it is Monday June 30th...
It rained, stormed, flooded, hailed, and we had straight line winds.
It was a ROUGH MONDAY to be a farmers wife. Which brings me to my crazy rant train.
Lately a lot of people have said some of the following to me:
"You're a farmers wife? I never would have guessed that"
" Who would have thought Paige would marry a farmer, ha ha ha"
" You don't look like the typical farmers wife"
" Do you actually help your husband on the farm or do you just spend his money"
" I SERIOUSLY can't picture you being married to a farmer"
" You're not a farmers wife; you are just married to a farmer"
..... Unfortunately these are just a handful of the things people have had to say about my recently new "title" if you want to call it that.
So, as I WAS STANDING IN POURING DOWN RAIN, and straight line winds, arguing with my husband, being cursed at in a corn field ( anyone who is married to a farmer will know that you do not NOT take things personally when you are in the middle of a farming crisis) , and spending my day soaking wet with no lunch and no breaks.
I would like to explain that yes indeed I am a farmers wife.
Yes indeed I do help my husband, and yes I do spend OUR money on OUR things.
I am a farmers wife and YES I sometimes suck at it, as I am sure that everyone else sucks at being something once in awhile.
No, I did not grow up on a farm, and yes I like to look nice, do my hair, and I LOVE decorating and fashion.
I have recently vented to my mom and begged and pleaded her to tell me why people are so astonished that I am indeed a farmers wife ( if anyone wants to enlighten me feel free) I also asked what I needed to do to fit the "Farmers wife" mold and she of course said to do NOTHING but be myself.
I feel like people laugh and think its a joke that I am a farmers wife, and they seem to think that I don't contribute to my husbands career and our families life choices, and please let me tell you that it is SUPER hurtful.
I have NEVER claimed to know anything about farming, I know what I know because of Zac and his patience with me. I have NEVER claimed to be an expert and I will be the last person to argue with you about something dealing with farming, BUT the point is that I try.. I fail A LOT.. but I try. Isn't that all that should matter?
Side Note: I sometimes feel like those who are or have been farmers wives are the ones who are quick to judge.. aren't we supposed to STICK together. I must have missed the memo of how to join the farmers wife club, because please let me tell you I defiantly haven't been welcomed with open arms.
Anyone who is or knows someone who is married to a farmer knows that this time of year is especially difficult when it rains, pours, and we have straight line winds, and today as I was helping my farmer, I was so overwhelmed by all the cliches and stereotypes of what a farmers wife should be. I felt like here I was spending my Monday in a small lake that was once a gravel road trying to help my husband out and yet people have the nerve to say all the above about me ( let it be known that I have LOVED spending all summer helping Zac at the farm, we truly enjoy all the time we get to spend together). It truly is hurtful and has been something I have been dealing with for the last couple of years, unfortunately with time it hasn't gotten any better as someone said to be today " OMG I can't believe you are selling your house in town to move to the farm." People really have lost their decency sometimes.
The moral of this story is that I needed to vent, and have felt very strong about this for a long time. I feel like I am flawed and people can't accept that I married a farmer. I mean what does the job requirements of being a farmers wife state? Am I B*****, am I am gold digger, did I do something in high school or college to make people think I can't be a farmers wife? Seriously I spend so much time trying to decipher what I did wrong to make people think so lowly of me.
P.S. I didn't marry him because he was a farmer, I married him because he has an adorable laugh, big blue eyes, and heart of gold. I can't imagine my life without him and I NEVER thought I would be sitting here writing about how cruel people can be.
So, take everything I said with a grain of salt, heck maybe you will laugh, snicker, share with your own friends, and giggle at my stupidity, and vulnerability; BUT after today I am willing to accept whatever cliche people think I don't fit, because all that matters is my marriage and my farmer, and even though today was a rough one, we are currently snuggled up on the couch watching the Kardashians because its all about compromise right? HA HA
Now that this is off my chest I would like to point out that I LOVE being a farmers wife, and it has been the best journey I have ever been on. It has made my marriage stronger than ever and I appreciate agriculture so much more, because of my husband and all of the other farmers out there. I am elated to be a farmers wife and someday raise kids on our farm. I love that Zac LOVES what he does he and everyday and even though there are bumps in the road I wouldn't have it any other way.
I thought this was very fitting to my crazy rant of a blog:
So with all of the above being said ( thank you if you made it this far) Here is my new Creed, like it or not I am a Farmers Wife and will be for many years to come.
XOxoxoxo
Paige
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